Why I swing and what I get from it – via The Vixen
For the last two months if you ordered certain shirts from our website Vixen Games Designs you’d get a thank you message that included a request to voluntarily answer a couple of questions.
The shirts were specifically swinger-themed and were women’s shirts.
Shirts like these two…
The main question was basically “Why do you swing?” The secondary one was “What do you get out of it?”
I asked for short and simple, and there was a limited space form.
We got nearly thirty replies from women who swing. More than we expected.
The reason for this was for a special project. It’s a fun project and you’ll see the results in a month or two.
I did all this on my own without mentioning it to my Vixen. Once I had all these answers I thought maybe I should ask my Vixen the question, and I explained what it was I’d done badly.
She thought it was a woman asking her, and that I wanted her to answer. She obliged.
I’d not said the keep it short part, and it was via messenger as I was at work making cool T-shirt designs.
This is how she answered the woman who she assumed was a newbie swinger and or a person considering becoming one. Also, someone who had ordered shirts so obviously not a troll.
Why I Swing (The Vixen)
For most people in the world, sex is about pleasure.
Pleasure is also so much more than sex though and there is nothing wrong with wanting to achieve pleasure which is why there are so many kinks and fetishes.
Now remember back to the first time you flirted with someone, held hands with them, looked them in the eyes and smiled, felt them, kissed them, touched them intimately, fucked them.
Your skin was hypersensitive, your heart beat fast, you ached, and you had butterflies in your stomach (well at least I hope you did).
Now imagine that, but tenfold. That’s swinging.
Swinging won’t work for you if you don’t still experience those sensations with your partner. Your partner is your rock, your biggest supporter, your cheerleader, your confidant, your safe space. But your partner also wants to see you experience pleasure and for some people, pleasure can be given by someone else.
Swinging isn’t going to fix anything that is already broken. If you think it will, just save yourself the time and heartache and toss in the towel now.
In swinging, a penis is just a penis and a pussy is just a pussy. Sure, the penis and pussy are attached to someone, and generally a bit of ‘shopping’ is involved, but let’s make a quick analogy here… My husband gets off on seeing my pleasure. Sometimes just watching me masturbate will rock his socks off.
But let’s say we are going to go shopping for a dildo. So many choices to pick from: plastic, silicone, glass, shapes, sizes, textures, functions…the list goes on and on. For me, that swinging couple… that guy that’s fucking me or the girl that’s licking my pussy… is the best sex toy a person can get (generally, cuz sometimes you can get a shit dildo if you catch my drift. “Return to sender”) Now, back to those butterflies I talked about in the beginning.
You are again flirting for the first time, being touched, maybe kissed and fucked. Now imagine having all those first-time sensations… in addition to and often at the same time you are still getting the sensation from your partner.
Watching my husband get off on my pleasure, seeing the want in his eyes, the pride, the excitement, and the pure love is something that is truly indescribable. None of that is compared to the connection that is felt after though.
You get to touch, feel, embrace, tease, fuck, laugh, snuggle, and for my husband, reclaim the love of your life.
Your rock. Knowing that what you just experienced with the other person is immeasurable in comparison to what you feel with your partner. It’s fun, pleasurable, naughty, sexy, but most of all it’s an additional connection with your partner, a new level of trust, respect, and giving that can be achieved for some.
Why I Swing (The Vixen)
So, there you have it. She’s fun.
She also has a zillion other reasons why, and she gets lots of other things out of it all as well, but she answered as she took the question.
When I explained to her after she’d sent me that what I’d actually meant and that most of the answers were just around five or six sentences, some just a couple sentences, she sent me back this…
“I just like creampies. Stretched, wet, n full” lol
She’s definitely has more of a hotwife mentality than that of most swingers. Naughty girl.
So what type of answers did we mostly get? Here is one example.
I started for my husband, he wanted to try it real bad. But now I think he does it more for me, not that he doesn’t like it, he’s a regular man, but everything about it ended up appealing to me. I like the clubs, going out, the sexy adventures, and all the different people we meet. It’s also fun to dress up, gives me an excuse. If I went back, stopped swinging, It’d just seem so boring, everything would be boring, and I’d not have these things to look forward to. My husband likes it all too, except he isn’t into it as much as me. He likes it though, so we’ll keep at it, and it was his idea after all.
I used that one as an example as it is one we will be using in the project.
I’m pretty hyped about it. Check back to see what it was all about.
Also don’t forget to check out Where To Get Our Vixen Hotwife & Stag Shirts.