We us a lot of sites. We are busy and devoted to the game beyond the average so that works for us. Most people just go with one or two sites, and sometimes three. For that reason we will give you three places to check out and yes we use them.
SDC.com is pretty dang popular and has over three million members with people all over the states so works in pretty much in every state. It’s regularly updated and works smoothly. This is a really great place to start. It has sections to hunt for exactly what you like, but is very much focused on couples when you get into who is on there. As they also have a good amount of couples who seek possible play with singles so it’s good for the singles too. Probably the best place to start of these three if new. They also have a buttload of informational articles/videos for swingers.
SwingLifeStyle.com is a less sleek and not so updated seeming site, but it also draws a lot of down to earth legit swingers. We have had great success on this site over the years meeting couples and singles. Oddly a lot of single women have contacted on this one compared to others. In general though we have mostly met couples here and also been invited to countless small parties through it. Small parties are great as it’s networking if nothing else. When we say small parties we are talking under a hundred people, but more than twenty. The way they do their lifetime membership has caused many long term lifestyle people to buy into it after a while because they know they will be paying anyway. Once you have a lifetime membership you’ll use it as long as you swing. This has made it so there are always active people.
LifestyleLounge.com This is an odd site in some ways because depending on where you are it can either suck or be awesome. We have traveled to places and looked on the website to find almost no lifestyle folks in the area at all. If however you are in an area that has a lot of people on this site it is awesome. We have met the best and coolest play partners through here. We have met many couples, a few single gals, and a lot of guys who actually make the grade. That is the important part. For some reason, even though we get less overall online action here than other sites we get good action. Less fakes (we like the real seal and testimonials) and men who seem intelligent and know how to do all that is involved to get real life play.
These three recommended sites to meet people for Swinging and Hotwifing are not the only sites out there. Many exist, and we are a west coast USA couple. Geography is VERY important in choosing which sites to use. Sad to say, but geography is very important as to how many people are into swinging in your area too. You could live in a town with 100K people and have weekly house parties or live in a 500k population town and have none.
The way people go about meeting and playing also differs from place to place.
In the end we are all basically seeking something similar though.
You may need to travel a bit for meetups, or you may need to entice people your way.
Before all that though you must get their attention.
If you decide to try any of the recommended sites to meet people for Swinging and Hotwifing listed above here five bits of advice to make them work for you.
- A picture is worth a thousand words. You need to post pictures. They need not be fully identifying, but they do need to show what sort you are. If you are a couple and both play, both people should be in the pictures. G rated up front is great. Save anything hard R or X for extra galleries or to send if requested. Keep it classy. You will need face photos, and those photos should be sent immediately or private galleries should be unlocked or shared immediately with first contact. Do NOT, and I repeat DO NOT send genital photos in a first contact message.
- Buy a short membership. Most of us will ignore free accounts as we assume you are a fake who just wants to slobber all over the screen at home while eating chips and drinking red bull in your unwashed boxers. Short memberships are not expensive. If you can’t afford one you can’t afford going out to dinner or drinks either.
If money is tight you need to decide if joining a site and checking out the lifestyle is a priority or not.
We wish it was all free too, but the reality is playing Vixen Games, hotwifing, and swinging all cost money. Clothes, travel, hotels, club fees, dinners, cover charges, etc.
The membership to a site is the least of it.
With that said, no need to buy long term memberships if you are just starting or to buy multiple at once. Go for a short one and check it out. See which sites get you the most real action. Test before committing. - Be real with your profile. Don’t talk yourself up as something you are not. Don’t play at being experienced if you are not. People who misrepresent themselves end up being an immediate disappointment on first meeting in real life.
It sucks, and it pisses people off. That should not be your goal.
Also it is wise to let people know you primary desires and boundaries on your profile. You can save the little stuff for private messages, but if there is something you are ultimately seeking it should be stated. If there are boundaries which may be a deal breaker for many those boundaries should be stated. If you don’t do so you are wasting peoples time. - When you are perusing the site and find a person or people who are of interest you should read their entire profile before contacting them. You should on first contact be polite, keep it short, but don’t go with a generic one liner either. You read their profile so you should have something to say besides a comment about their pics being hot.
- Be ready to be rejected or ignored. It will happen. Don’t take it personally. We are all seeking different things and are attracted to different types even though the goals are similar. Also note that people have lives outside of this and don’t always check the sites regularly. We personally may do it daily when we are in the groove, but have also been known to not log in for months when we aren’t into it. The sites are to meet new people and often long time lifestyle people don’t actually need to do so. They may have many regulars or may have lifestyle friend groups. They possibly attend clubs or parties regularly. The sites may for them just be when they are seeking something new.
I could probably do twenty bits of advice instead of five, but this is about recommended sites to meet people for Swinging and Hotwifing rather than how to behave on the sites themselves. I considered those five necessary however to make it so joining a website isn’t a total waste of time.
Maybe total waste isn’t the correct term… I have joined sites and not fleshed out my profile as I described many times. I have joined and then just had a good look around as a member with whatever basic profile requirements were required to get full functionality of the site.
If it seemed cool I’d then put my profile together in a way to get good interactions. If it seemed not my thing I’d bail and let the membership expire.
Anyway, that’s it for our recommended sites to meet people for Swinging and Hotwifing post.
If you aren’t new to it all and just read our recommended sites to meet people for Swinging and Hotwifing post for the fun of it. Don’t know why you’d do that honestly, but maybe…
We have another way.
It’s magic.
You will meet new people.
The trick is to get yourself a Cutie Patootie Swinger Pineapple Couple T-Shirt.
People will look.
People will ask.
You will be outing yourself if you wear it to work and don’t have a great excuse, but you will meet people.
Check this fun design.
You can get the Cutie Patootie Swinger Pineapple Couple T-Shirt HERE via the Vixen Games Designs Store.
Yeah, it’s a swinger lifestyle shirt, but most Vixen and Stag couples are swingers as well, just not with the swinging being a focus. Even if you aren’t into the swinging, but you’re a hotwife this will still get the attention. People will ask “Are you a swinger?”
Then you can say “Sometimes, but my husband isn’t.”
Life should always include some humor each day.